What to say

Thank you messages

A thank you that names the specific thing is worth ten that do not. "Thanks for everything" is polite; "thanks for driving two hours on a work night" is memorable.

Say what they did, and say what it saved you.

Short

Thank you. Genuinely, not politely.
You did not have to do that, which is exactly why it mattered.
Thank you for showing up. Half of it is showing up.
I owe you one, and I will remember it.

When they helped you through something

I do not think you know how much that week would have flattened me without you in it. You never made me feel like a burden once. Thank you.
You gave up your own time for something that was entirely my problem, and you did it without being asked twice. Thank you.
Thank you for being practical when everybody else was being sympathetic. It was exactly what I needed.

धन्यवाद संदेश (Hindi)

शुक्रिया। सिर्फ़ औपचारिकता नहीं, दिल से।
आपको ये करना ज़रूरी नहीं था, इसीलिए ज़्यादा मायने रखता है।
उस मुश्किल वक़्त में आप साथ खड़े रहे। ये मैं भूलूँगा नहीं।

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Questions

How soon should I send a thank you?

Soon enough that they can still connect it to what they did. A late thank you is still much better than none.

Is a message enough, or should I give something?

For most kindnesses a specific message is the thing people keep. Add something small if you want, but the sentence is what gets remembered.